Hi  Emily:

I hope you can give me advice on what to do about my ex boyfriend.We broke up about 4 months ago and have never seen each other again since that time but I know he found someone else and was happy.I am also in another relationship.A few days ago i started chatting with my ex's brother on Facebook since we were friends.Then, later, I found out that my ex and his new girl were having problems.Now this morning, my ex called me and I was very surprised. He said he just wanted to say hello and to know how I was doing. I'm very confused by that phone call, and I'm wondering what to do now.We were together 1.5 years and, I think, I'm not over him yet. Please help me not to do something stupid.

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------

Often, when someone thinks they might be able to "revisit" a relationship, it's because issues remain unresolved. But be careful, because some relationship "issues" can't be resolved, and that's the reason for the break-up, period!  I'd think long and hard about what your differences were with your ex, and if there's good reason you and he aren't together. It's hard to cut off certain feelings when you spent a great deal of time with someone, but rehashing a relationship that wasn't meant to be "forever" seems a fruitless venture, and stalls emotional growth. He's having problems with his new girlfriend and might be going though a nostalgia period -- because you are a good person, and he's comparing her to you. But, again, that doesn't mean you and he can turn back the clock and magically fix the differences that created the break-up. Think long and hard before you negate what you have now.