Hi, I have been with this girl for 2 going on 3 years now and about 5 days ago she broke up with me. But, yesterday, she wanted me back.Now it seems that every single time I even attempt to get happy, it comes crashing down to depression by something she does, or did recently. I have feelings for her. Feeling that the second we break up my heart just hurts, and I feel like I'm going to die -- but it's getting impossible to even smile now with what she does. So what do I do?

--------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------

I think you need to evaluate the value of your life. I know some people are long-suffering in relationships that are less than satisfactory. Some will simply tolerate certain behaviors, and others will take a stand -- and that often means letting go and moving on without that person. I don't know you, so it's hard to place your discontent with her -- although you're welcome to tell me in another e-mail to give me a better idea of the situation.  I can see that you are angry, depressed, and frustrated and you need to do something about it. The more power you give away in a relationship, the less power you have to change it. You are hurting, and this tells me you need to do some soul-searching and honestly pinpoint the validity of your discontent and, then, muster the courage to address this head-on. To break up with you, only to want you back so soon, might infer that your girlfriend does want out of the relationship, but she's insecure about finding someone who is as consistent, and accepting of her as you have been. But that doesn't mean there isn't a mutual dependency. It might be wise to take a longer break than five days in order to go through the emotional ups and downs to see if the end result is that you are better off without each other, than continue this roller coaster ride to nowhere.