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Half- brother Thinks Incest Okay!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/29/2010
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Hey, I live in the U K, am18 and moved in with my dad a year ago, it was a couple of months before i turned 18 and my half brother kept trying it on with me. Ii thought he was only messing around because that's what he's like. It started with him trying to kiss me and touch me up. I went out drinking with my friends to a party, and I got drunk. I called him to pick me up and take me home --but he didn't, he took me to his flat and said he'd take me home in the morning and said "dad will freak if he sees you like that." So I went to the spare room and stared to get changed, put on a old shirt of his and that's when it happened. Now he keeps telling me he loves me and want to get me pregnant. I know it's wrong but I feel so helpless -- like I can't stop him from doing this to me. I'm scared to tell anyone. Is this ok? We only have the same dad but different mum. I really need your help please get back to me asap. Thanks.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------
Of course it's not okay! He's your half-brother. I know you are of age (although perhaps you weren't eighteen when this started) but this whole situation is abusive, and possibly criminal. Although you didn't tell me how sex happened with him, was it rape? Did he force himself on you? If so, that's a legal issue, but I sense, by your words, you wouldn't do anything about it. The time to do it was immediately after the fact (if it was rape) for evidence and, of course, if it happened again. Bottom line: You need to get as far away from him as you can. He has no right to do this, and you could get pregnant! This is an inconceivable notion, let alone the stigma and social implications. You'd be considered an outcast -- or you'd have to live a lie. I know, in the United States, where I live, that would be the case.You have to stand firm, against him, and you need to make sure you have some birth control method if he were to do this to you, again. I feel ridiculous saying such a thing to you -- the obvious choice would be to tell a doctor, counselor, or family member in order to protect yourself, but you told me you can't tell anyone about this horrid event. Of course, I suggest you do, but because I think you won't, you need to protect yourself. Please, please, please stay away from this predictor. He has no right to force himself on you, and you need to take control. No woman, and I mean no woman should be subjected to this abuse -- and it is abuse. Make a stand not to take it, or you will be headed for a bigger world of pain and hurt. Please, feel free to write to me when the need arises. I am here for you, because I care.
Hey, I live in the U K, am18 and moved in with my dad a year ago, it was a couple of months before i turned 18 and my half brother kept trying it on with me. Ii thought he was only messing around because that's what he's like. It started with him trying to kiss me and touch me up. I went out drinking with my friends to a party, and I got drunk. I called him to pick me up and take me home --but he didn't, he took me to his flat and said he'd take me home in the morning and said "dad will freak if he sees you like that." So I went to the spare room and stared to get changed, put on a old shirt of his and that's when it happened. Now he keeps telling me he loves me and want to get me pregnant. I know it's wrong but I feel so helpless -- like I can't stop him from doing this to me. I'm scared to tell anyone. Is this ok? We only have the same dad but different mum. I really need your help please get back to me asap. Thanks.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------
Of course it's not okay! He's your half-brother. I know you are of age (although perhaps you weren't eighteen when this started) but this whole situation is abusive, and possibly criminal. Although you didn't tell me how sex happened with him, was it rape? Did he force himself on you? If so, that's a legal issue, but I sense, by your words, you wouldn't do anything about it. The time to do it was immediately after the fact (if it was rape) for evidence and, of course, if it happened again. Bottom line: You need to get as far away from him as you can. He has no right to do this, and you could get pregnant! This is an inconceivable notion, let alone the stigma and social implications. You'd be considered an outcast -- or you'd have to live a lie. I know, in the United States, where I live, that would be the case.You have to stand firm, against him, and you need to make sure you have some birth control method if he were to do this to you, again. I feel ridiculous saying such a thing to you -- the obvious choice would be to tell a doctor, counselor, or family member in order to protect yourself, but you told me you can't tell anyone about this horrid event. Of course, I suggest you do, but because I think you won't, you need to protect yourself. Please, please, please stay away from this predictor. He has no right to force himself on you, and you need to take control. No woman, and I mean no woman should be subjected to this abuse -- and it is abuse. Make a stand not to take it, or you will be headed for a bigger world of pain and hurt. Please, feel free to write to me when the need arises. I am here for you, because I care.
