Well, I'm having a baby in December and me and the baby's father have, or were together for 6 months. Getting ready to be teen parents is just making things hard. Now things have gotten so hard on us, and were not together. I moved to California and he will soon be coming too. I want him to move in with me and my family so he can help with the baby during the night, too. Is this going to make things even harder on us? Should I just give him space and let him do his own thing until he knows for sure what he wants to do? I really love him, and I want things to work between us but it's just too hard right now.

-------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Of course it's hard. These circumstances seldom offer an easy path. You can't force him to be an active parent if he is not ready to be one, but he has financial obligations to the baby. Right now, you need to concentrate on preparing yourself for the birth, and that means keeping a positive attitude -- despite the difficulty in doing so. Continue to encourage him to be truly involved in parenting, and that would mean moving in with your parents if they are on board with it -- but, again, he needs to want to do it voluntarily. If not, he will only resent you and the baby if he feels he's being coerced. And that would not be good for you, or the baby! Sure, this child is his responsibility, as well, but many young guys don't see it that way. Hopefully, your baby will bring you and him together. But if it doesn't, your baby needs to have the best mother he, or she deserves. Tough? You bet. Rewarding? Absolutely.