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Arrested Development?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/26/2010
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
My 24 yr old bf still lives at home with his parents, and won't take on a real career. Every time I try to talk to him about it, he gets mad and feels like I'm patronizing him, but really I just want him to better himself. The only thing he pays for is his car payment and concert tickets. How do I get him to gain his drive back without bluntly telling him?
--------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------------------
Well, you pretty much told him without being blunt. I'm afraid this is his call. Love him as you do, he's not the type of guy you would want as a permanent mate, so maybe that's the real problem. He does appear to have a case of arrested development, but just because he's not living up to your expectation, doesn't mean he has the ability, or even the desire to change his present circumstance. Mom and Dad are the people who should be putting a flame to his butt! I tend to think that, maybe "what you see, is what you get" when it comes to this little fella.
My 24 yr old bf still lives at home with his parents, and won't take on a real career. Every time I try to talk to him about it, he gets mad and feels like I'm patronizing him, but really I just want him to better himself. The only thing he pays for is his car payment and concert tickets. How do I get him to gain his drive back without bluntly telling him?
--------------------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------------------
Well, you pretty much told him without being blunt. I'm afraid this is his call. Love him as you do, he's not the type of guy you would want as a permanent mate, so maybe that's the real problem. He does appear to have a case of arrested development, but just because he's not living up to your expectation, doesn't mean he has the ability, or even the desire to change his present circumstance. Mom and Dad are the people who should be putting a flame to his butt! I tend to think that, maybe "what you see, is what you get" when it comes to this little fella.
