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Love Is Blind!
- Published Yesterday
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
My fiance and I have had a weird relationship so far. He is currently in jail. Just a few days after he went to jail, I talked to a girl who also said that she was dating him. I was deeply hurt. He explained that he had bee dating her when we met, and he hadn't gotten the nerve to break up with her. The thing that he had with her is over. He will be home in about 3 months, and I told him that I will wait for him and he trusts me completely. Yesterday, my ex got in contact with me. I agreed to meet and speak with him. Our relationship had ended quite badly. To make a long story short, we ended up sleeping together. Immediately afterward, I felt terrible. I love my boyfriend with all of my heart. I have never been the type to cheat. I do not know if I should tell my boyfriend and make him lose all trust in me, or if I should keep it a secret and make sure that it never happens again. I am afraid that I will lose him if I tell him, and that is the last thing that I wanna do. Should I tell him?
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This whole story is absurd. Not that it isn't true (on your part), but I think you're being railroaded by a con artist. This guy is your fiance, and he failed to mention to you that he didn't tell a woman he was dating it's over? He was dating her when you met, and he hadn't the heart to break up with her? Gee, what a guy. He's in jail, he was seeing another woman at the same time he's engaged to you, and you worry about him trusting you? I'm stunned at your naivete. I don't doubt that you ex is not the right guy for you, because you seem to have a habit of choosing the wrong men. Of course, if you told your jailbird you slept with your ex that would cause tremendous doubt on his part, and he probably would not trust you, again -- or dump you (that would be a blessing in disguise). But since there's no trust in this relationship, anyway, I wonder what difference it would truly make if you did tell him?! This relationship is not only weird, it's wrong. And if you stay with him, you'll have only yourself to blame when you found out he was nothing more than what he appeared to be, but you put blinders on to avoid seeing the truth.
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This whole story is absurd. Not that it isn't true (on your part), but I think you're being railroaded by a con artist. This guy is your fiance, and he failed to mention to you that he didn't tell a woman he was dating it's over? He was dating her when you met, and he hadn't the heart to break up with her? Gee, what a guy. He's in jail, he was seeing another woman at the same time he's engaged to you, and you worry about him trusting you? I'm stunned at your naivete. I don't doubt that you ex is not the right guy for you, because you seem to have a habit of choosing the wrong men. Of course, if you told your jailbird you slept with your ex that would cause tremendous doubt on his part, and he probably would not trust you, again -- or dump you (that would be a blessing in disguise). But since there's no trust in this relationship, anyway, I wonder what difference it would truly make if you did tell him?! This relationship is not only weird, it's wrong. And if you stay with him, you'll have only yourself to blame when you found out he was nothing more than what he appeared to be, but you put blinders on to avoid seeing the truth.
Return To Old Job?
- Published Yesterday
- General
Dear Miss Emily:
I need advise regarding my career. I work in bpo. I was into calling. A few months back, I got good opportunity, so I left calling and joined a back office. However, I'm not happy working here. Colleagues are pain to work with. Please advise. Should I leave the company, and go back to my previous company, or continue?
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It's hard to go back to something unless you truly miss it in your soul. You want to enjoy your work, if you can't love it, and you'd have to sure that returning to your old job gave you a sigh of relief, a smile on your face and, maybe, a future. People can be a pain to work around -- there's no doubt about it. Here you are, with people you don't pick out, but yet you have to work with them all day. It makes you question what life is all about! Again, make sure your old job is not just a band-aid on a restless mind. Even if you did return, consider taking classes at night to get a degree, if you don't already have one, and pursue a career through education. You have your whole life ahead of you to work, and if you can find your passion, and get paid for it, you come out the winner.
I need advise regarding my career. I work in bpo. I was into calling. A few months back, I got good opportunity, so I left calling and joined a back office. However, I'm not happy working here. Colleagues are pain to work with. Please advise. Should I leave the company, and go back to my previous company, or continue?
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It's hard to go back to something unless you truly miss it in your soul. You want to enjoy your work, if you can't love it, and you'd have to sure that returning to your old job gave you a sigh of relief, a smile on your face and, maybe, a future. People can be a pain to work around -- there's no doubt about it. Here you are, with people you don't pick out, but yet you have to work with them all day. It makes you question what life is all about! Again, make sure your old job is not just a band-aid on a restless mind. Even if you did return, consider taking classes at night to get a degree, if you don't already have one, and pursue a career through education. You have your whole life ahead of you to work, and if you can find your passion, and get paid for it, you come out the winner.
When to Butt Out
- Published Yesterday
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
Hello. A very close friend of mine has recently fallen for a guy who is really unstable. One second he is telling her he loves her, the next he is breaking up with her. They have been on and off several times for the last 4 months. I have talked to her about it, telling her she deserves somebody who won't play her like a puppet. But she keeps getting back with him. I hate seeing her get hurt every time, so I sent a really long message to her boyfriend, suggesting that he sort himself out and stop hurting her. Am I getting too involved in their relationship? And should I just back away and watch the same vicious cycle continue?
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Yes, it's time to back off. If anything you said had been taken to heart, your girlfriend would have decided to stay away from this guy. Your letter to him, more than likely, won't make a difference in their relationship, but it could, now, drive a wedge in the relationship you have with her. But whatever the outcome, your friend seems to want to learn the hard way, or hope she can prove everyone is wrong about him. But, ultimately, it's her life, and you must let her live it -- no matter her apparent need to be jerked around.
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Yes, it's time to back off. If anything you said had been taken to heart, your girlfriend would have decided to stay away from this guy. Your letter to him, more than likely, won't make a difference in their relationship, but it could, now, drive a wedge in the relationship you have with her. But whatever the outcome, your friend seems to want to learn the hard way, or hope she can prove everyone is wrong about him. But, ultimately, it's her life, and you must let her live it -- no matter her apparent need to be jerked around.
